Our children are not us. They don’t have our experiences and haven’t had to learn perhaps, to be tough like we did.
But also we do live in a world of abundance and not scarcity, there’s plenty of everything to go around. That means you don’t have to compete with them because to be frank, you’ll lose in the long run. You’re getting older and they’re getting stronger. You can’t be better than they are forever because one day they’ll be bigger than you and able to do things that you can’t do.
Your kids are not you and they’re not in competition with you and they’ll only think they are if you teach them to be by childish behaviour like competing.
Ralph Waldo Emerson once wrote:
‘There is no nobility in being superior to another human being. The only nobility comes from being superior to who were yesterday’.
Its true when you think about it isn’t it?
But so much of popular culture these days teaches us to compete against each other: football, rugby, tennis, singers, actors, politicians. The media constantly bombard us with competitive messages about who’s winning at this and who’s losing at that.
Let’s face it if they didn’t they’d have nothing to talk about at all and no papers to sell as a result.
Now think about it – if you are better than someone else at something – what does that prove? It proves that on a given day at a given time at a given task you did better than someone else. Wow! How impressive – NOT!
Don’t focus on what others do, focus on what you do. Compete with yourself because at the end of the day it’s the only measure of your progress as you are the only constant in the equation.
Thanks for reading today and tomorrow we'll look at another bad habit that we often have
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